tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5048816026503282845.post1867093562373512496..comments2023-10-28T04:06:59.305-04:00Comments on 100in12: Please excuse the stream of consciousness below...100in12http://www.blogger.com/profile/11837269479201971060noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5048816026503282845.post-52329139681630817332010-09-28T07:19:27.900-04:002010-09-28T07:19:27.900-04:00Wow, I don't have much "sage" advice...Wow, I don't have much "sage" advice, having been through the "Matriarch" thingy myself...however, I do know that you can't love others until you love yourself, and if you don't love yourself, you will often say negative things to OTHERS...so, I'd say your "Matriarch" has issues. Kill her (not literally!) with kindness. Show her that you're not like her. Besides, from your progress pics, you've done an AMAZING JOB at improving yourself. And about your friend at work - I'm not sure if you can love yourself through & through and still treat your body like that, esp. when you (she) has health issues. That being said, I've seen some amazingly gorgeous larger women, but they are ones who are naturally larger and would never, ever be a size 10 (or 6, whatever)...<br />Confidence is good, but healthy wisdom is good too...and kindness!<br />Congrats on your success!<br />DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5048816026503282845.post-4285370376785329602010-09-26T09:41:16.985-04:002010-09-26T09:41:16.985-04:00Good luck! I wish you all the success. In 2002, I ...Good luck! I wish you all the success. In 2002, I had the lowest self esteem, highest weight and was really unhappy. I COMPLETELY relate! I started to make changes in my life (ie jogging and eating better) but what really helped was fixing my mental image. If you love yourself, the rest will follow. <br /><br />I would right down three positive statements about myself each night before bed and read them outloud. Did I feel a bit silly? Yes, but over a bit of time I really did love myself more. <br /><br />It also helped motivate me to continue my journey of jogging and finding my path to eating healthy (so did the book Eat to Live). <br /><br />Today I am still not perfect, but I found something better - happiness. I love myself and am happy with how I look. There are days that I still see some of the flaws, but mostly I see what is great.<br /><br />So please, don't give up on yourself ever! You are 100% worth your own self respect. :)robynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11878657365086181154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5048816026503282845.post-23375302095632034362010-08-19T18:52:32.923-04:002010-08-19T18:52:32.923-04:00I absolutely agree with you! So important that you...I absolutely agree with you! So important that you learn to love and take care of you. It's hard when you've lived like that, I know, but you can do it.Kerri Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12744424433988127754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5048816026503282845.post-24609560417411764862010-08-17T18:52:09.987-04:002010-08-17T18:52:09.987-04:00Very sound logic. I hope it is going well and tha...Very sound logic. I hope it is going well and that you are back to blog again soon!266https://www.blogger.com/profile/16170707764904423302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5048816026503282845.post-43385908105896421182010-08-03T09:12:05.779-04:002010-08-03T09:12:05.779-04:00Dude, embrace the maintenance. If you're hold...Dude, embrace the maintenance. If you're holding steady at one weight, no matter what it is - especially in a time of transition! - I'd call that a victory.<br /><br />When was the last time you saw The Matriarch? You've done a great job losing weight in the past year - does that not make a difference?<br /><br />On the one hand, I envy your co-worker's confidence, but is there some denial there? Does she EVER talk about health or weight? Ugh, I feel like one of *those* holier-than-thou commenters. What I mean is, can someone who's overweight in our society ever *really* be ok with how they look? Too early for existentialism. Sorry.<br /><br />I hope however you "come out" about this self-love thing, it's a good experience. If you're taking the stance of "I need to love myself first, then other stuff will fall into place," it probably IS a good idea to let your mom (are we talking about confronting your mom or godmother?) know where your priorities lie. Sometimes back-handed advice only serves to perpetuate the crap we're projecting on ourselves, so if she knows you're not actively focusing on weight loss, maybe she'll back off. And if not, at least you were honest with yourself and everyone else in proclaiming what you're all about.<br /><br />Does any of that drivel make sense? I need another cup of coffee.Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09448342488945777031noreply@blogger.com